Post Wedding Thoughts?
I recently got married. My wedding day was beautiful, fun, but for some reason now that everything is over, I keep replaying my wedding day in my mind. What I could have done differently. It is driving me crazy when everything went off perfectly. I can't even stand looking at wedding shows, bridal books because I keep saying, “I should have done that/I should have wore that.”
Anyone ever had those kind of thoughts and feelings? If so, please help because these thoughts are making me crazy.
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This post was written by admin on October 7, 2009
Before the day, my hubby and i decided that we didn't want certain things, or that some things wernt important to us but now its done i really wish i had them all!
One is the photos. We didn't pay for a proper photographer, just had a friend with a really good camera and a bit of a hobby to do it. The pics are just ok. He didn't direct us and so we haven't got pics of loads of guests and my hubby hasn't got a singe pics of him with his parents. Our eyes are closed in a lot too. He didn't come out to photograph me when i got there either, so i feel like the car was a waste of money.
My dress was taken in to much, and i wish i hadn't worn all the masses of underwear under it!
I felt really low after the honeymoon – nothing to plan, things i regretted, but i have since taken the decision that there is nothing i can do about it now so why have regrets?
I just found out that my new Mother in law wasn't spoken too during the wedding breakfast by my step mother who was sitting next to her and things and i feel terrible that she was upset and only spoke to my 3 year old son but there is nothing i can do.
You don't say how long you have been married, but i have been for 3 months this weekend. It does get easier i promise.
Do have a video to watch to remind you of all the good stuff? this helped me. x
After months of planning, it is a letdown to have nothing more to plan and look forward to. Start thinking about your first anniversary. That will give you something to plan.
Also, no matter how well the day turns out, I think it's normal to sort of replay it in your head to see what you would have done differently- especially if you're kind of a type A personality to begin with. What you have to remember, though, is that your wedding day was beautiful and now it is over and you are a wife. Everything you did, wore, served, danced to, etc. was just right, and you can't change it now, even if there was something you would have done differently.
Just so you know, you're not crazy. Lots of women, and maybe even some men, go through the post-wedding blues. In fact, my wedding is still 30 days away and I'm starting to feel sort of sad about how it's all going to be over soon, just because I've been looking forward to it for so long. But you have to remember that now you have a wonderful husband and a fresh new life together, and soon you may decide to start a family, which will be one more beautiful life-changing moment to plan for. Best of luck!