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Post Wedding Thoughts?

Post Wedding Thoughts?

I recently got married. My wedding day was beautiful, fun, but for some reason now that everything is over, I keep replaying my wedding day in my mind. What I could have done differently. It is driving me crazy when everything went off perfectly. I can't even stand looking at wedding shows, bridal books because I keep saying, “I should have done that/I should have wore that.”

Anyone ever had those kind of thoughts and feelings? If so, please help because these thoughts are making me crazy.

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This post was written by admin on October 7, 2009

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  1. admin October 7, 2009 4:33 am
    You just spent a great deal of time planning for a big occasion and now it is over and you are still in the "planning" stage in your mind. The best thing to do is avoid Wedding TV shows and magazines etc until you are settled in married life and the new routine etc. Then it will be easier to be more objective. Or you can go the opposite direction and start a new career as a Wedding Planner !!! What ever works :) ))
  2. admin October 7, 2009 4:33 am
    Sure! I cut corners on my invitations to save money, and now I keep seeing all these cute things I could have done for just as cheap if I had just made them myself. I kind of wish I had picked a different dress, too. There are a few things I wish I would have done differently, but when I start to feel that way I just whip out the wedding album and look at how happy we were, and I feel a lot better.
  3. admin October 7, 2009 4:33 am
    Yes i know exactly what you mean!!

    Before the day, my hubby and i decided that we didn't want certain things, or that some things wernt important to us but now its done i really wish i had them all!

    One is the photos. We didn't pay for a proper photographer, just had a friend with a really good camera and a bit of a hobby to do it. The pics are just ok. He didn't direct us and so we haven't got pics of loads of guests and my hubby hasn't got a singe pics of him with his parents. Our eyes are closed in a lot too. He didn't come out to photograph me when i got there either, so i feel like the car was a waste of money.

    My dress was taken in to much, and i wish i hadn't worn all the masses of underwear under it!

    I felt really low after the honeymoon – nothing to plan, things i regretted, but i have since taken the decision that there is nothing i can do about it now so why have regrets?

    I just found out that my new Mother in law wasn't spoken too during the wedding breakfast by my step mother who was sitting next to her and things and i feel terrible that she was upset and only spoke to my 3 year old son but there is nothing i can do.

    You don't say how long you have been married, but i have been for 3 months this weekend. It does get easier i promise.

    Do have a video to watch to remind you of all the good stuff? this helped me. x

  4. admin October 7, 2009 4:33 am
    I was married in May and I couldn't even get on this Y!A page lol. And to boot, my friend's wedding was the following Saturday after mine and I didn't even go :( because I just didn't want to deal with anything wedding related (plus, I was still on my honeymoon). You'll get over it. Try your very best to not think about it. If it helps, I haven't even looked at my wedding photos yet lol.
  5. admin October 7, 2009 4:33 am
    You are obsessing. If it continues, see a therapist.
    After months of planning, it is a letdown to have nothing more to plan and look forward to. Start thinking about your first anniversary. That will give you something to plan.
  6. admin October 7, 2009 4:33 am
    You should worry too much, it seems as though you had a blast!! Well you and your hubby should start popping out some kids and then you could plan a baby shower :-)
  7. admin October 7, 2009 4:33 am
    Keep yourself busy. Whether by working, enjoying your time with your new husband or just relaxing… either way, once you get back into the groove of normal life it will get easier as time goes by.
  8. admin October 7, 2009 4:33 am
    Actually, from what I see on here, lots of newlyweds have kind of a hard time letting go of being the bride and having the wedding, and I think it's perfectly normal. After all, think about it- you spend like a year and a half planning every little detail about this one day in your life, and then the day comes and goes, and now there's this big hole in your life where wedding planning used to go. It's hard to be the star of the show, queen for a day, and then be expected to pop right back to normal everyday life once it's all over.
    Also, no matter how well the day turns out, I think it's normal to sort of replay it in your head to see what you would have done differently- especially if you're kind of a type A personality to begin with. What you have to remember, though, is that your wedding day was beautiful and now it is over and you are a wife. Everything you did, wore, served, danced to, etc. was just right, and you can't change it now, even if there was something you would have done differently.

    Just so you know, you're not crazy. Lots of women, and maybe even some men, go through the post-wedding blues. In fact, my wedding is still 30 days away and I'm starting to feel sort of sad about how it's all going to be over soon, just because I've been looking forward to it for so long. But you have to remember that now you have a wonderful husband and a fresh new life together, and soon you may decide to start a family, which will be one more beautiful life-changing moment to plan for. Best of luck!

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